Why?

[singingcirclesaway]

Crimson said:

Sex is not the biggest thing in the world.
Not even in the top 20.

Although, for some people, it's no. 1.

it's not number 1, but it is definately in the top 5. i couldn't marry someone (let alone be with someone), knowing i was going to spend the rest of my life with them, if they had no sex drive/sucked at it/whatever.

[TheAstronaut]

thats quite harsh Mel considering you might find someone and fall in love with them so much their sexual appeal wont mean nothing. if you truly love someone, you dont care whether theyre good or bad

anyway, define what 'good' sex is?

[singingcirclesaway]

that's just the way i feel. i'm a very sexual person (no, really) and it means a lot to me. that's all. i guess you can always teach someone though? :/

i'll let you know when i have it.

[TheAstronaut]

hmm right. you dont even know what your talking about.

[singingcirclesaway]

yeah, i do actually. i was joking. if you ask people, i'm sure most would classify good sex as you know, getting something out of it - you know, multiple, screaming the house down orgasms. that's all. i'm not going to go into detail about my sex-life, but basically, i've never had that. mmkay? still, in my own definition, good sex is when you connect with the person and it's more than them just getting themselves off. simply put, i don't have to be screaming the walls down to have good sex, yeah?

[Tiberius]

So God's handing out extras to men and women and he asks the man if he wants to be able to pee standing up. "Yeah!" exclaims the man, "I'll be able to write my name in the snow!". So lastly God gets to the woman and she asks him, "what's left?". God looks around in the bag and says... "multiple orgasms?"

A Very Old Joke.

The said:

thats quite harsh Mel considering you might find someone and fall in love with them so much their sexual appeal wont mean nothing. if you truly love someone, you dont care whether theyre good or bad

That's a bit Naïve don't you think Deane? Are you really saying that sexual attraction plays no part at all? Sure you can fall in love with someone and be their best friend, their soulmate, their kindred spirit etc. But if you have no desire to see them naked, then that's just the way it is, no?

[Kristy]

I have fallen for people that i felt nothing towards before i got to know them, i think saying you have to be attracted to them first is a little naive. What happen to beauty being in the eyes of the beholder?

But of course there are people that you are instantly attracted to but thats not the only way realtionships develop.

[WithoutWords]

"beauty is in the eye of the beer holder"

[Tiberius]

Kristy said:

What happen to beauty being in the eyes of the beholder?

That's exactly what I'm saying. If you from your perspective with your eyes are not sexually attracted to the other person, then the relationship will never be physical yeah?

[TheAstronaut]

fine then, call me niave, see if i care. i'm going to just shut up, i obviously have no chance at being somewhat correct with this.

[Firecracker]

without said:

"beauty is in the eye of the beer holder"

lol @ that. ;D

I think that you can fall in love with someone who you don't find attractive, but then they become attractive because you love them.
Think about it... everyone thinks that they have the hottest friends.

Personally, I never find people attractive until I get to know them. I know it sounds odd... but it's the truth.

[Kristy]

Tiberius said:

That's exactly what I'm saying. If you from your perspective with your eyes are not sexually attracted to the other person, then the relationship will never be physical yeah?

Well i think if you truly love the person then they will become attractive, what crimson said.

[loux2]

yep
i think the more you fall in love with someone the more attractive they become and the more in love you fall

[dirtgirl]

Crimson said:

I think that you can fall in love with someone who you don't find attractive, but then they become attractive because you love them.
Think about it... everyone thinks that they have the hottest friends.

Personally, I never find people attractive until I get to know them. I know it sounds odd... but it's the truth.

I kinda agree...

[TheAstronaut]

thats relating to what i was saying. when your truly in love, appearance and the 'drive' of sex is meaningless.