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Post by Captain BJ on Mar 18, 2002 18:27:16 GMT 10
I don't really know where Preston is eiher... other side of the city
Well obviously after 8 girls I'd probably give up. And don't they have technology so you can choose? Of course these are all decisions that are AGES away...
By the way I don't think she'd be too happy with 8 so there's a good chance we'd give up earlier... I was just joking...
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Post by singingcirclesaway on Mar 18, 2002 18:36:07 GMT 10
oh, well all i know is im going to the dempsey gig both nights. well, i should be anyway. i bloody hope you are going too, for your sake anyway.  thats like our entire family - out of all my cousins and my sisters they ended up with 9 girls and 2 boys. and now we have all started having kids they are all boys. go figure. i bet i will end up with 2 boys. just my bloody luck.  |
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Post by Captain BJ on Mar 18, 2002 18:42:36 GMT 10
Definitely going Friday night, might go Thursday, haven't decided...
I know I'd want one boy... cause fast forward to when he's my age and I'm Dad's age... I'd need someone to tell my stupid jokes that piss off the girls... Still I suppose my wife (I don't think I've ever used "my wife" in a sentence, feels so wierd!) would probably want the same thing so looks like we will get up to eight trying!
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Post by somethingforkaty on Mar 19, 2002 9:32:13 GMT 10
is anyone going to the newcastle uni show, or the 2 sydney shows? |
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Post by dirtgirl on Mar 19, 2002 15:35:11 GMT 10
Get married before your 25 and you'll be divorced before you are thirty....People aren't fully formed until they are at least thirty...Thinking of having kiddies before then is just mad!!
And why throw children into the middlle of the mess? It's not fair to them. Let them at least have parents who are settled and have got their lives sorted out first. You can't really claimed to have got the adolscent bug out of your system before thirty. Live life, don't put millstones of responsiblity around your necks before you have to, for god's sake!! (listen to the old people!!)
prenups - read up on family law before you sign on the dotted line, and see what you are in for when it all goes pear shaped, I gurantee you'll be clamering for the nup... In fact, you only have to be defacto to still be taken to the cleaners...
Anyway, enough cheery cynicism from me for today! ;D
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Post by Captain BJ on Mar 20, 2002 11:48:08 GMT 10
Oh come ON... You're right about cynicism... not cheery though. You are talking absolute worst case.
I'm lucky enough to know the difference between loving someone, and loving someone and being able to picture us together in 10, 20, 50 years down the line. Maybe not everyone else has had that feeling, but I know I have. And although I mightn't end up with this person, at least next time I'll know what it's supposed to be like.
Like LL said in another thread, numerical age is considered the basis for emotional age, and that's the same here. Who's to say that hey I'm 29 so not ready for marriage and whoops it's Sep 24 2010... I'm ready, woohoo!
And I can also think of plenty of couples who have been married at 20 or something and they are still together now. My mum missed her 21st because she was on her honeymoon. Yes, times are different, but it's the same principle. You don't have to be 30 to know whether you've found the right person and want to marry them.
And with the kids too... Again I'm not stupid enough to have kids without having my life a bit more settled. OK unplanned pregnancies can happen, but we're talking about wanting to have kids before 30, and you think it's a dumb decision. So unforseen events are irrelevant for the purpose of this conversation. So anyway... who's to say that I haven't lived life and I don't want responsibility? Or rather, that I won't have by the time I want to get married and have kids? I've had a fair bit of fun already. Yep I'd love to see the world and all that (and in fact still plan on it), but if I had the choice between marrying someone perfect for me or travelling round Europe for a while, I know what I'd choose.
Finally prenups... OK, again worst case... I do know a bit about family law anyway... but for what it's worth, if I get a chance I will try and do some more reading up. I want to know what your guarantee is worth though. Because I am philosophically against the idea of marrying someone if you think there's a realistic chance of it going "pear-shaped".
See really you're raising conflicting points. You're saying don't get married before 30 because you'll probably get divorced. And have a prenup after 30 because you'll probably get divorced.
Gee don't we have faith?
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Post by singingcirclesaway on Mar 20, 2002 14:40:03 GMT 10
amen brother. |
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Post by dirtgirl on Mar 20, 2002 14:44:09 GMT 10
You're right, I am being the devils advocate, and sadly for too many people my senario is their reality. I'm just advocating taking your time and being pretty damn sure of things before signing your lives away, that's all. I mean, hey, my parents married in their early twenty's and they are still together after thirty years so it can't all be bad! ;D (Look how I turned out!  ) ;D Goodluck katy and Captain; hope it all works out for you guys... ;D Personally, I just have to remind myself, that there are still good people out there and that not all men are bastards...it's just hard sometimes...  |
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Post by somethingforkaty on Mar 20, 2002 15:04:06 GMT 10
hmmm yeah your probably talking about worse case scenario there. i used to think, man im NEVER getting married... ever being the chronic commitment phobic person i was... but after i met dave my whole perception changed about marriage and the rest. now look @ me.... im getting married at 21 for gods sake ;D and i cant think of anything more wonderful "People aren't fully formed until they are at least thirty" I dont think thats true. People grow and change throughout their whole lives... |
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Post by Glen on Mar 20, 2002 15:14:43 GMT 10
now look @ me.... im getting married at 21 for gods sake ;D and i cant think of anything more wonderful Hoorah! That made me grin  Congrats Katy! |
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Post by singingcirclesaway on Mar 20, 2002 15:17:21 GMT 10
i really believe it can work if you marry young. i just dont think i want to - i cant imagine meeting the person im meant to spend the rest of my life with already. i think i want to experience being with other people and everything first. but if i do meet this man already, i will be happy. it just might be a bit overwhelming im sure. |
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Post by dirtgirl on Mar 20, 2002 15:30:26 GMT 10
Seems like yet again im on my lonesome Am I the only one here who has been burnt to a chrisp?  |
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Post by Captain BJ on Mar 21, 2002 8:24:24 GMT 10
Good luck to Katy anyway... since she is actually getting married. I'm just wishing for what seems impossible.
Geez I'm glad though that this didn't end up being one of our typical long conversations... (do we EVER agree?) Not really in a great mood and wouldn't believe my own words. Just a trough (sp?), that's all... The peaks aren't as high and the troughs are lower... I wish I was back in high school.
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Post by singingcirclesaway on Mar 21, 2002 12:35:37 GMT 10
oh god, me too. this big people stuff bites. |
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Post by dirtgirl on Mar 22, 2002 15:12:43 GMT 10
From the mouth of babes: Thoughts on Marriage
How do you decide whom to marry?
"You've got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dips coming."
Alan, aged 10
What is the right age to get married?
"Twenty three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then"
Camille, aged 10
"No age is good. You've got to be a fool to get married"
Freddie, aged 6
How can a stranger tell if two people are married?
"You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids."
Derrick, aged 8
Is it better to be single or married?
"It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them."
Anita, aged 9
How would you make a marriage work?
"Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she really looks like a truck."
Ricky, aged 10
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