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Post by Tiberius on Apr 29, 2003 19:18:43 GMT 10
I'd agree Mel. While it's obviously fun in one way it could also be sad in another if it's completely meaningless.
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Post by allthatshimmers on Apr 29, 2003 20:11:46 GMT 10
Hooray, someone that finally makes sense. I think some people can have sex and not be emotionally attached, but it still has to mean something. Or doesn't it? Maybe I'm just one of a few humans in the world that sees sex as more than just that, but I'd hope not - I'd hope there were more than just a few. i totally agree. For me sex is and has always meant more that a (very enjoyable) recreational activity. I can't separate sex from stronger affection/attatchment and emotion. it's just the way it is for me. Which is why is could never support a 'casual' arrangement |
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Post by somethingforkaty on Apr 29, 2003 20:18:41 GMT 10
I don't think there is anything wrong with casual sex ... in moderation  I don't think there is anything wrong with a meaningless night here or there, that's your decision, as long as our sure that's all your after and you won't be disappointed. It isn't very fulfilling emotionally no, but it's not meant to be, that's the point. I do however detest the sluts who proceed to go about and do every guy in sight. Now that's just dirty. |
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Post by singingcirclesaway on Apr 30, 2003 3:08:01 GMT 10
Well yeah, each to their own of course. But for me, it has to mean something, or you may as well forget it. That said, I am human, and sometimes you need some affection. Usually in that case though, an ex will suffice. Hurrah.
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Post by allthatshimmers on Apr 30, 2003 13:44:19 GMT 10
Well yeah, each to their own of course. But for me, it has to mean something, or you may as well forget it. That said, I am human, and sometimes you need some affection. Usually in that case though, an ex will suffice. Hurrah. ditto |
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Post by back2u on Apr 30, 2003 14:10:02 GMT 10
I don't know about everyone else but I don't subscribe to the every hole is a goal theory.
For me it's not really worth it if it's just some physical thing. If you don't have it all together there with your intended bed buddy then there is really no point because the sex is boring and it ends up being what i colloquially term a deadfuck.
If you are sleeping with someone and have to imagine you are somewhere else with somebody else, or you have to tell her to shut up because stupid phrases seem to just fly out of her mouth or her voice is irritating why bother in the first place?
Remember condoms break, pills sometimes falter and the big A is just not emotionally feesible for some people, so the next time you just fuck someone for the sake of fucking maybe you should think about the genes they might pass on to an unwanted child that could be conceived and ask yourself is it really worth the mediocre sex.
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Post by Kristy on Apr 30, 2003 14:14:12 GMT 10
Well yeah, casual sex isn't really for me, although i don't have problems with others that are ok with it, other than, like Katy said those that go to the extreme. But otherwise each to their own. I think good for you if, it can just be sex.
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Post by Catfish on May 5, 2003 21:07:08 GMT 10
Can i just like have a little whinge here cause i'm feeling down? I'm used to living with people that love me unconditionally, and the boy i want likes boys. Stop laughing, i feel like shit at the moment. I seem to have such unfortunate luck. Any boy that likes boys is GAY and you can take that to mean both colloquially and in the modern sense of the word. If someone I knew turned gay, I wouldnt want to know them. that's my point of view, so my advice is forget about them. Now for my bitch on life at the current time (2003-05-05, in the computer friendly format of year-month-date, which i think should become worldwide standard for writing dates): I found out last week that a girl, who i thought was one of my friends and, who I did have some extra feelings for has been lying to me and is also sucking some guy's dick that she works with. Ok, I can get over the cock sucking, but i especially don't appreciate the lying to me for no good reason, more so because i was always nothing but nice to her and wanted so much to help her with any problems she had in her life. (Her family life was not up to scratch the last I heard from her/others, but i don't know about that now because oh - she wont talk to me anymore) I found all this out from my cousin Marty - he's the man - so I guess what I learnt from this is that you have to identify who really is looking out for you in life and who is just bullshitting you around. Just remember people - once you lose someone's trust, it takes a hell of a lot to regain it. Just an edit: "Marty - he's the man" doesn't mean "he's the man with the dick she is sucking". It means, "he's the MAN" he's the man. |
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Post by Kristy on May 6, 2003 13:08:29 GMT 10
If someone you know 'turns' gay the only thing that changes about them, is who they are fucking. But that's just opinion.
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Post by HeadingEast on May 6, 2003 16:23:33 GMT 10
Yer, until they start saying that your cute and they like you and they wish you were gay. That happened to me, never talk ot this guy any more, he just creeps me out cos he likes me and thinks im cute (which i am certainly not).
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Post by back2u on May 6, 2003 23:03:13 GMT 10
You can have gay friends I'm just not sure about having gay friends of the same sex as you? Some people say it's asecurity thing but I think it works both ways, if they have insecurities then they are going to hit on you so it's kind of a double edged sword. But if you can work around it to salvage a friendship of someone you have been mates with since you were like 3 you should.
That's my view anyway!
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Post by Catfish on May 6, 2003 23:06:17 GMT 10
Just a clarification post, and i know no one (let's translate that to 'Kristy') was not having a go at me, but just to make all things understood, my wording is just how i speak or think.
Like I said, and Kristy said, it's our opinions. So I thought I would just post this now so no one gets upset over how I, and others, phrase things.
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Post by natty on Jun 23, 2003 15:19:56 GMT 10
i have a bi friend (female) and i gotta say, she scares me! but that's just cos this particular girl in question is really 'out there' with her sexuality and tries to get it on with EVERYONE!!! Otherwise i don't think i'd have any reservations about being friends with a same-sex homosexual!
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Post by maddy on Jun 23, 2003 15:42:55 GMT 10
HELP ME!!!!!!!
I'm feeling really shit and the moment and feel like i may have totally wreaked my entire life.
In friday night i had my formal and me and my best mate took a couple of casual friends as our partners, at least thats what I thought.
Anyway at the after party i had a huge amount to drink and i ended up making out with my best mates partner...
my friend isn't talking to me...
i tried to contact her all weekend..
at school today i appologised and she went off in a huff...
I didn't even relizie she liked him that much...during the formal she was pining after some other guy...
i'm soooo confused, shes talking to the guy but not to me...
also he keeps messaging me and telling me to talk to her...as if i'm not trying, why does everyone always blaim the girl?
Am i doomed to have a series of one night stands?
do i have a drinking problem?
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Post by somethingforkaty on Jun 23, 2003 21:47:11 GMT 10
I don't think you have a drinking problem, and you will only ever have as many one night stands as you want to have. I always found that school was always really Melrose Place like because you would be in a group of girls and guys, and so and so likes whoever, but he likes her, and she likes etc etc etc.... If your friend doesn't like the guy you got it on with then she may just be a bit insulted or jealous that you got his attention. I don't know what happened but if i took some guy to a dance, even if i didn't like him, i would be embarassed if he made out with my friend all night and i was left looking like a nigel no friends. Or worse, people may THINK that they were together and you were doing that to her man?? It's strange that shes talking to him and NOT you. When she calms down a little bit you will probably be able to explain and talk some sense to her. Good luck  |
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