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Post by timbaxterml on Nov 13, 2004 6:02:51 GMT 10
i want to go deaper i made my friend do it for me she got really weried and i just cant stop That's one of the really dumb things about self-injury that hardly anyone pays attention to. It's really goddamned contagious. I caught it off a friend of mine in England. He wrote an article on it, which I read. I was dealing with a lot of crap at the time (I still am), and I found a release in self-injury. It took me four years or so to stop. In the end, the thing that got to me was *always* having to wear long sleeves, even on the hottest, most humid day. I've now gone since februrary without self-injuring once. I still get urgy, but I've managed to keep it under wraps. If you are looking for a good place to go to find people who understand, there's a group called Bodies Under Siege. They have a web forum, IRC channel and email list. They really do help. It's completely peer-support based. There are no counsellors. And no-one pressuring you to stop. They're completely anonymous and free. I made some great friends on there. They also have a lot of people who know about all manner of mental illness issues. They're really worth checking out. The web forum is at: busmail.org/phpBB/For the IRC channel, you need to connect via a java client that the administrators have set up, because the channel is password protected. Once you're in, you can ask for the password and connect via mIRC or whatever program you use. I'd give you the password, but I haven't been there in a bloody long time, and I'm almost certain it would have changed by now. The java IRC client is at: buslist.org/chattest.htmlWith the email list, I know they were having problems a while back, but they've probably fixed it by now. Instructions for how to sign up are at: busmail.org/I feel I have to say this, even though I don't know how relevant it is to your situation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, or anyone else, because you self-injure. It's just one more way of getting through the bad times. It's also a damned sight healthier than becoming an alcoholic. All self-injury ever says about anyone is that they're tough enough to find a non-conventional way to deal with the shit life's thrown at them. Anyway, if you need help, feel free to PM me or contact me via whatever I have in my profile on here. I've gone through the full gamut of self-injury, so I know how it can feel. =) |
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Post by dyingforperfection on Nov 14, 2004 12:07:15 GMT 10
I am a 21 year old female that has been cutting for a while now. I feel like I am such a freak because of the sense of relief I feel when I cut. I've gotten to the point where I can hardly go a day w/out cutting. I carry a razor blade and band-aids w/ me everywhere I go. I have scars but it still doesn't stop me. I just wish this nightmare would end.
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Post by timbaxterml on Nov 14, 2004 13:39:01 GMT 10
I am a 21 year old female that has been cutting for a while now. I feel like I am such a freak because of the sense of relief I feel when I cut. I've gotten to the point where I can hardly go a day w/out cutting. I carry a razor blade and band-aids w/ me everywhere I go. I have scars but it still doesn't stop me. I just wish this nightmare would end. It's not that strange to be cutting. IRL (not including the bodies under siege forum, because that'd skew things a lot) I know at least 40 people who cut / burn / whatever regularly. Most of my ex-girlfriends (6 out of 11) have been regular self-injurers. I've read a few different stats on self-injury, and one of them said that 16% of Australians regularly self-injure. You might be a freak for any number of other reasons (for instance, if you said you enjoyed having sex with infants, I might drop that 'freak' word), but cutting doesn't make you one. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you're ultimately the one who's in control when you self-injure. It's an addiction, but it's also a choice. It works, and it's a damned sight better for you in the short and long term than drugs, chain-fucking or alcohol. |
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Post by Detta on Nov 16, 2004 12:51:32 GMT 10
I just discovered cuts on my daughter's arm tonite. She is 13. She has talked about cutting before, but that was last year, her "year from hell" in middle school. I thought we were by this by apparently not. As far as I know there is no abuse, she is loved and liked in the family. We all get along well and I try to be the best mom I can be, obviously I'm not doing good enough. It's possible she inherited my depression even though she doesn't act depressed. We joke and laugh and get along. Even though we are not suppsed to at her age. Of course I have read where she has written that she doesn't get along with her parents but I think in part "angst" is cool nowadays and I think that is part of it. 13 is a very confusing age, I remember well. This cutting thing has thrown me through a loop though. I have gone back to school and am studying to be a teen counselor while my own teen falls apart. I feel like such a bad mom. Help me to understand this, cuz right now it just scares the crap out of me.
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Post by timbaxterml on Nov 16, 2004 14:57:50 GMT 10
Hey Detta, I can probably help with any questions you have, but I'd prefer to do it via email if that's okay. If you email me at backstar@hotmail.com, I can probably give you a list of good websites and such to visit plus I can offer you a few tid-bits of advice on the topic. |
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Post by sparklle on Dec 15, 2004 0:46:28 GMT 10
Does anybody know something that can help with fading cutting scars?
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Post by loux2 on Dec 15, 2004 13:17:19 GMT 10
Vit E oil?
Not sure.
There's stuff you can buy i think from chemists that helps fade it. don't know the name.
i reckon go in and and ask and say it's for your sister (so you don't have to show your scars), but you can't remember the name.
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Post by timbaxterml on Dec 15, 2004 15:50:13 GMT 10
Vit E oil? Not sure. There's stuff you can buy i think from chemists that helps fade it. don't know the name. i reckon go in and and ask and say it's for your sister (so you don't have to show your scars), but you can't remember the name. I second everything lou's said. I know there is a treatment, but can't remember what it's called. If memory serves, though, the name of it is on the following link somewhere. I'm 99% sure this is where I read about. crystal.palace.net/~llama/psych/I'd have looked myself and got it for you, but I'm on my way out the door. |
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Post by sparklle on Dec 16, 2004 16:10:26 GMT 10
Thank you very much. x
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Post by jupiter on Dec 19, 2004 20:15:35 GMT 10
Yes - Vitamin E oil, cream, whatever, it's all good for fading scars. Also, rub your scars. I know that sounds weird, i thought so too, but it truly does help. And i used to know the proper scientific reason for why it does help, but it has conveniently flown from my mind. Oh well, never mind. I really hope life picks up for all of you out there..  |
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Post by cheer up emo kid on Dec 19, 2004 20:56:41 GMT 10
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Post by Hecate on Jan 19, 2005 20:12:07 GMT 10
It does sound like an interesting book. However, does it speak of the "bloodletting" as a pleasureable experience; a high-like experience or one that is destructive and ultimately disrepectful to yourself? |
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Post by timbaxterml on Jan 19, 2005 20:37:57 GMT 10
It does sound like an interesting book. However, does it speak of the "bloodletting" as a pleasureable experience; a high-like experience or one that is destructive and ultimately disrepectful to yourself? Amy was kind enough to lend me her copy when she was in Melbourne, and she's away for the week, so I'll answer for her. It doesn't really do either, which is the way any honest book on the topic should be. The author views it as just a part of the normal course of events. Really, the book is just an honest autobiography with a particular focus on both her mental health and those events which influenced it. It's very readable. I had a bout of insomnia and happily read most of it in one night. I've since ordered it through my work (at a bookshop). The other bonus is that it is Australian and, while I don't like the (real-life) path she chose at towards the tail end of the book, it ends optimistically, and that's important. It's the first honest, client-oriented book I've read on the topic, and that impresses the hell out of me. If I'm being perfectly honest, though, for me, it dredged up a lot of stuff that I'd managed to avoid for a while. Probably not a great read if you have your own largish issues. It is pretty confronting at times. |
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Post by Hecate on Jan 19, 2005 20:51:08 GMT 10
Amy was kind enough to lend me her copy when she was in Melbourne, and she's away for the week, so I'll answer for her. It doesn't really do either, which is the way any honest book on the topic should be. The author views it as just a part of the normal course of events. Really, the book is just an honest autobiography with a particular focus on both her mental health and those events which influenced it. It's very readable. I had a bout of insomnia and happily read most of it in one night. I've since ordered it through my work (at a bookshop). The other bonus is that it is Australian and, while I don't like the (real-life) path she chose at towards the tail end of the book, it ends optimistically, and that's important. It's the first honest, client-oriented book I've read on the topic, and that impresses the hell out of me. If I'm being perfectly honest, though, for me, it dredged up a lot of stuff that I'd managed to avoid for a while. Probably not a great read if you have your own largish issues. It is pretty confronting at times. That does sound very impressive. I cut many years ago and have not been edgy for a very long time, but an insight into the actual act is so lacking, probably because it is so individualistic for each person, that an honest autobiography sounds like a very helpful tool for those who have been able to come out the "other side." I am all for promoting Australian literature as well and I think I will order a copy as well. |
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Post by cheer up emo kid on Jan 26, 2005 16:19:57 GMT 10
Does anybody know something that can help with fading cutting scars? there's this stuff..at the body shop in the vitamin e section, its a wee little dropper bottler, 25mls or so and its called wheat germ extract or something?? anyway its pink and little and in the vitamin e section and is kind of an uber moisturisers so its pretty good for fading scars as is rose oil apparently. |
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